Saturday, December 27, 2008

Resolutions

This is the time of the year when everybody makes resolutions...so that by the 3rd week of 2009 they can look back and wonder how is it that they have such litle self constraint.

well....to keep the tradition up...here are some of the resolutions i have shortlisted to pick from.

1) Be more tolerant of stupidity.
2) Lose the 2 pounds that I have gained in the past 3 months.
3) Start working out...in some form other than sex.
4) Stop watching snl parodies on Sarah Palin and Hillary Clinton. (Yes yes....whatever!)
5) Try to understand how people spend such huge amounts on soap.
6) Think twice before I add Soy Sauce to my food again...In case you are wondering...read it here.
7) Try and keep a smiling face when random females try to 'save' me in supermarkets!
8) Sleep with a priest/padre/preacher/nun.
9) Stop expecting intelligence in the dating/hook up sites.

Cannot quite think anything else that I may want to do in the next year...but I definitely shall keep on updating this list.

Cheers!

strawberries



Wish you all a fantastique 2009!

Saturday, December 20, 2008

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Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Colours of the Fall 2




(This one has been retouched on Picassa, but I just increased the shadows to enhance the contrast...touche!)

Monday, December 8, 2008

Of mirages and realities...

I saw B online after a long long time two days back, and I realized that I have not been blogging. It's funny, I am going back to being the nerd I was while in my undergrads!

Anyways, I was chatting with this kid from India (I abhor the way it sounds!)...well...no that's no big deal...I do chat with lots of people from India...but this was different, no...not the kid...but the chat!

This was just after the American general elections were over, and he was all upset about the proposition 8 being passed by California. I found that funny...some kid in India was UPSET about some gay marriage law being banned in the US. He became even more upset when he realized that I was not really aware of the whole scene, and the fact that I did not care too much about it either. He even asked me if my role model was 'Brian'. I did not understand who 'Brian' was...and he was even more 'disappointed' in me because of that. His reaction was almost as though I was not qualified to be gay as I was not 'homosocially' aware enough...or aware of the popular gay culture, or the icons for that. Of course he did not say it out...and I am certain I am making him sound much more rude than he really was.

But I just happened to notice a general pattern here...one that of conformation.

Things are difficult for gay men in India. And somehow, the movies, serials and literature make gay life in the western countries easy. I recall a 'friend' of B and me whose dream was to find a teaching job in some 'obscure' town in Canada, find a 'nice' Canadian men to 'marry and settle down'...and 'live happily ever after'.

This kid, last we chatted, wanted to move out of India, to some european country, or to the US or Canada, find some guy and settle down.

And of course they believe in strict monogamy...marriage and everything holy.

I am just confused.

It is difficult for gay men in India. However, I am yet to know about somebody being killed in that country because he was gay. Gay men in India are ridiculed at, made fun of; but they are not tortured and killed for that.

Just two rather recent incidents in the US:
1. a 14 year old gay kid gives a valentines day card to his classmate; the classmate gets a baseball bat and pounds the kid to death.
2. 3 'straight' men 'lure' a 21 year old gay man, take him to the woods, rape him, torture him, tie him up with barb-wire and leave him to die. He dies after 3 days...tied with barb wire in the woods.

Oh! I did find out who 'Brian' is.

Colours of the Fall 1


Sunday, December 7, 2008

Move & Pick


Yesterday I went to my first Move n Pick meet in Chennai. I had no plans for the day save maybe catch up with a chat buddy for dinner, but that fizzled out due to his work commitments..so I decided to go and say hello to the boys.

Paul and V, two of the guys I have been chatting with on g4m, were the ones who told me that there was a meet happening. So I made it to the beach and it was dark already when I reached. The guys where sitting in a circle on the sand and generally talking, slowly a few other guys came in...we all said our hellos, well I must admit I should have introduced my self to every one, I just let be. I was seeing a few for the first time , but then I also knew a few faces..which made it easy.....not much happened, save the discussion on doing a parents meet for a few folks who had shown some interest..and the meeting broke up and we headed out to Dinner.

So A, I did it and no I was miss manners personified, I even managed to mind my P's&Q's in front of the young ones..albeit with a little help from a friend. I definitely hope to see more of the group, but I sure hope they come up with more intresting stuff...I did hear about a screening...Stone Wall any one!!

Monday, December 1, 2008

OH! Yeah!

Oh yeah! Verbosity in the sac, now that's a touchy area. A's already aired his views, but damn it can be sexy, specially when its spontaneous and natural. But, then it stops there, spontaneity in sex and improvisation ( read Kink) is lost to most Indian men.

How would it sound if a man who is proud of his ability to get into skinny jeans goes, Oh yeah bitch, do u want it!! don't sound convincing..or remote sexy, on the other hand a butch, big bear doing the same can fuck me till kingdom come...I m not saying that I am always good with being verbose or it works all the time, but when it is said right, Hallelujah!!